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Tuesday, September 1, 2009

SEX Asexuality for Beginners

Posted by Dan Savage on Tue, Sep 1, 2009 at 3:19 PM

From the homepage of the Asexual Visibility and Education Network:

Asexual people have the same emotional needs as anyone else, and like in the sexual community we vary widely in how we fulfill those needs. Some asexual people are happier on their own, others are happiest with a group of close friends. Other asexual people have a desire to form more intimate romantic relationships, and will date and seek long-term partnerships. Asexual people are just as likely to date sexual people as we are to date each other.

I'll probably be accused of asexophobia for suggesting that asexuals who date "sexual people" are obligated to disclose their asexuality by the third date. Asexuals may have the same emotional needs as anyone else, but most of us sexuals—heterosexuals, homosexuals, bisexuals—expect to have our emotional and sexual needs met in our long-term partnerships. Someone who is incapable of meeting a sexual's needs has no business dating a sexual in the first place, if you ask me. At the very least asexuality must be disclosed. Moving on:

Figuring out how to flirt, to be intimate, or to be monogamous in a nonsexual relationship can be challenging...

You think?

 

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It is basically a non-issue. Has anyone ever met one of these so called asexual people?

I've held off on sex for one reason or another but not just because. Maybe I will start using this as an excuse when a date wants to bone and I don't. "Sorry, I'm asexual and a practicing member of the Asexual Visibility Network."
Posted by Mizzzzzzz on September 1, 2009 at 7:25 PM · Report
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"figuring out how to flirt, to be intimate, or to be monogamous in a nonsexual relationship can be challenging..."

aren't those relationships called "friendships"?
Posted by nast-tea on September 1, 2009 at 10:38 PM · Report

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