I'm a first-time writer, and have been catching up on your archived letters but haven't found one that answers my question.

Not much background is needed here. I'm a 20-year-old in a relationship with a slightly older guy (25). This is the first relationship for both of us where we've been able to open about our desires and fantasies and so far our sex life is fantastic.

Here's my question: we've recently started pegging, and doing a little ass play when I blow him. He says he enjoys this and it appears that way too. But is his inability to ejaculate from pegging similar to the way some women don't climax during vaginal intercourse? I've only been able to achieve orgasm with him so I know what it's like to have sex without a grand finale. Is this the same way with pegging or am I doing it wrong? Any tips would be great, I don't want my guy to be missing out.

GGG

P.S. Love the app!

My response after the jump...

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Um...

Just as most women require additional, direct, and focused clitoral stimulation during vaginal intercourse in order to climax, GGG, most men require additional, direct, and focused penile stimulation when they're being fucked/pegged in order to climax.

In other words: tell the boyfriend to jerk himself while you peg him, GGG, and your problem will be solved.

Lots of young and inexperienced people go into their first big-time sexual relationships laboring under the misconception that big-time sex means never having to touch yourself during sex. Wrong. Women who know what they're doing often touch themselves during sex; men who know what they're doing often touch themselves during sex too. And people who know what they're doing aren't threatened when their partners touch themselves during sex.